on change

She was a little taken aback a few days ago having found out that Buddy was telling people that the reason for their demise was because she had "changed" after the programme.

She has never seen change as a bad thing, simply different. But perhaps her reaction came from the word being used pejoratively.

He helped her put things in context by saying that yes she probably had changed. For if she was the same person she was prior to the programme then she would still be with Buddy. Perhaps the only change was that post programme she realised that there were things she was putting up with that she didn't have to. But that was change enough.

And if Buddy needs to believe that was the reason for their demise, then so be it. We all need to somehow explain the bad things away. Is it the truth? Maybe it's the truth as it seems to him. She believes the truth is coloured by one's own perceptions.

Has she changed?

Probably

Is that a bad thing?

She doesn't think so. She likes the person that she is and where she is heading. And that person was partially moulded by that experience. We are the sum total of our experiences right?

He is a star for reminding her of that.